merge various SF fixes from gingerbread to honeycomb-mr2 (DO NOT MERGE)

  Fix a race that could cause GL commands to be executed from the wrong thread.
  RefBase subclasses can now decide how they want to be destroyed.
  Fix a race in SurfaceFlinger that could cause layers to be leaked forever.
  Fix a race-condtion in SurfaceFlinger that could lead to a crash.

initial cherry-pick:
resolved conflicts for merge of b9783b49 to honeycomb-plus-aosp

Change-Id: I2a335e03fff219e35c18a7b0089b3a11d636576f
diff --git a/include/utils/RefBase.h b/include/utils/RefBase.h
index f355087..e88cb29 100644
--- a/include/utils/RefBase.h
+++ b/include/utils/RefBase.h
@@ -120,7 +120,14 @@
 protected:
                             RefBase();
     virtual                 ~RefBase();
-    
+
+    // called when the last reference goes away. this is responsible for
+    // calling the destructor. The default implementation just does
+    // "delete this;".
+    // Make sure to never acquire a strong reference from this function. The
+    // same restrictions than for destructors apply.
+    virtual void            destroy() const;
+
     //! Flags for extendObjectLifetime()
     enum {
         OBJECT_LIFETIME_WEAK    = 0x0001,