iw_cm: free cm_id resources on the last deref

Remove the complicated logic to free the iw_cm_id inside iw_cm
event handlers vs when an application thread destroys the cm_id.
Also remove the block in iw_destroy_cm_id() to block the application
until all references are removed.  This block can cause a deadlock when
disconnecting or destroying cm_ids inside an rdma_cm event handler.
Simply allowing the last deref of the iw_cm_id to free the memory
is cleaner and avoids this potential deadlock. Also a flag is added,
IW_CM_DROP_EVENTS, that is set when the cm_id is marked for destruction.
If any events are pending on this iw_cm_id, then as they are processed
they will be dropped vs posted upstream if IW_CM_DROP_EVENTS is set.

Signed-off-by: Steve Wise <swise@opengridcomputing.com>
Signed-off-by: Doug Ledford <dledford@redhat.com>
diff --git a/drivers/infiniband/core/iwcm.h b/drivers/infiniband/core/iwcm.h
index 3f6cc82..82c2cd1 100644
--- a/drivers/infiniband/core/iwcm.h
+++ b/drivers/infiniband/core/iwcm.h
@@ -56,7 +56,7 @@
 	struct list_head work_free_list;
 };
 
-#define IWCM_F_CALLBACK_DESTROY   1
+#define IWCM_F_DROP_EVENTS	  1
 #define IWCM_F_CONNECT_WAIT       2
 
 #endif /* IWCM_H */