Fix server shutdown

A previous fix to make close() occur later can cause socket reuse by servers to fail as previous sockets are left asynchronously open.

This change:
- adds a callback to TCP server shutdown to signal that the server is completely shutdown
- wait for that callback before destroying listeners in the server (and before destroying the server)
- handles fallout
diff --git a/src/core/iomgr/tcp_server_posix.c b/src/core/iomgr/tcp_server_posix.c
index 90b7eb4..482166e 100644
--- a/src/core/iomgr/tcp_server_posix.c
+++ b/src/core/iomgr/tcp_server_posix.c
@@ -102,12 +102,18 @@
   gpr_cv cv;
 
   /* active port count: how many ports are actually still listening */
-  int active_ports;
+  size_t active_ports;
+  /* destroyed port count: how many ports are completely destroyed */
+  size_t destroyed_ports;
 
   /* all listening ports */
   server_port *ports;
   size_t nports;
   size_t port_capacity;
+
+  /* shutdown callback */
+  void (*shutdown_complete)(void *);
+  void *shutdown_complete_arg;
 };
 
 grpc_tcp_server *grpc_tcp_server_create(void) {
@@ -115,6 +121,7 @@
   gpr_mu_init(&s->mu);
   gpr_cv_init(&s->cv);
   s->active_ports = 0;
+  s->destroyed_ports = 0;
   s->cb = NULL;
   s->cb_arg = NULL;
   s->ports = gpr_malloc(sizeof(server_port) * INIT_PORT_CAP);
@@ -123,29 +130,62 @@
   return s;
 }
 
-void grpc_tcp_server_destroy(grpc_tcp_server *s) {
+static void finish_shutdown(grpc_tcp_server *s) {
+  s->shutdown_complete(s->shutdown_complete_arg);
+
+  gpr_mu_destroy(&s->mu);
+  gpr_cv_destroy(&s->cv);
+
+  gpr_free(s->ports);
+  gpr_free(s);
+}
+
+static void destroyed_port(void *server, int success) {
+  grpc_tcp_server *s = server;
+  gpr_mu_lock(&s->mu);
+  s->destroyed_ports++;
+  if (s->destroyed_ports == s->nports) {
+    gpr_mu_unlock(&s->mu);
+    finish_shutdown(s);
+  } else {
+    gpr_mu_unlock(&s->mu);
+  }
+}
+
+static void dont_care_about_shutdown_completion(void *ignored) {}
+
+void grpc_tcp_server_destroy(grpc_tcp_server *s, 
+                             void (*shutdown_complete)(void *shutdown_complete_arg),
+                             void *shutdown_complete_arg) {
   size_t i;
   gpr_mu_lock(&s->mu);
+
+  s->shutdown_complete = shutdown_complete ? shutdown_complete : dont_care_about_shutdown_completion;
+  s->shutdown_complete_arg = shutdown_complete_arg;
+
   /* shutdown all fd's */
   for (i = 0; i < s->nports; i++) {
     grpc_fd_shutdown(s->ports[i].emfd);
   }
   /* wait while that happens */
+  /* TODO(ctiller): make this asynchronous also */
   while (s->active_ports) {
     gpr_cv_wait(&s->cv, &s->mu, gpr_inf_future);
   }
   gpr_mu_unlock(&s->mu);
 
   /* delete ALL the things */
-  for (i = 0; i < s->nports; i++) {
-    server_port *sp = &s->ports[i];
-    if (sp->addr.sockaddr.sa_family == AF_UNIX) {
-      unlink_if_unix_domain_socket(&sp->addr.un);
+  if (s->nports) {
+    for (i = 0; i < s->nports; i++) {
+      server_port *sp = &s->ports[i];
+      if (sp->addr.sockaddr.sa_family == AF_UNIX) {
+        unlink_if_unix_domain_socket(&sp->addr.un);
+      }
+      grpc_fd_orphan(sp->emfd, destroyed_port, s);
     }
-    grpc_fd_orphan(sp->emfd, NULL, NULL);
+  } else {
+    finish_shutdown(s);
   }
-  gpr_free(s->ports);
-  gpr_free(s);
 }
 
 /* get max listen queue size on linux */