bpo-40268: Remove unused structmember.h includes (GH-19530)

If only offsetof() is needed: include stddef.h instead.

When structmember.h is used, add a comment explaining that
PyMemberDef is used.
diff --git a/Modules/itertoolsmodule.c b/Modules/itertoolsmodule.c
index 4ebeb74..18fcebd 100644
--- a/Modules/itertoolsmodule.c
+++ b/Modules/itertoolsmodule.c
@@ -2,7 +2,7 @@
 #define PY_SSIZE_T_CLEAN
 #include "Python.h"
 #include "pycore_tupleobject.h"
-#include "structmember.h"
+#include <stddef.h>               // offsetof()
 
 /* Itertools module written and maintained
    by Raymond D. Hettinger <python@rcn.com>