feat: setup.py redesign and helpers (#2433)

* feat: setup.py redesign and helpers

* refactor: simpler design with two outputs

* refactor: helper file update and Windows support

* fix: review points from @YannickJadoul

* refactor: fixes to naming and more docs

* feat: more customization points

* feat: add entry point pybind11-config

* refactor: Try Extension-focused method

* refactor: rename alt/inplace to global

* fix: allow usage with git modules, better docs

* feat: global as an extra (@YannickJadoul's suggestion)

* feat: single version location

* fix: remove the requirement that setuptools must be imported first

* fix: some review points from @wjacob

* fix: use .in, add procedure to docs

* refactor: avoid monkeypatch copy

* docs: minor typos corrected

* fix: minor points from @YannickJadoul

* fix: typo on Windows C++ mode

* fix: MSVC 15 update 3+ have c++14 flag

See <https://docs.microsoft.com/en-us/cpp/build/reference/std-specify-language-standard-version?view=vs-2019>

* docs: discuss making SDists by hand

* ci: use pep517.build instead of manual setup.py

* refactor: more comments from @YannickJadoul

* docs: updates from @ktbarrett

* fix: change to newly recommended tool instead of pep517.build

This was intended as a proof of concept; build seems to be the correct replacement.

See https://github.com/pypa/pep517/pull/83

* docs: updates from @wjakob

* refactor: dual version locations

* docs: typo spotted by @wjakob
diff --git a/tools/pybind11Common.cmake b/tools/pybind11Common.cmake
index 96e958e..26a1e04 100644
--- a/tools/pybind11Common.cmake
+++ b/tools/pybind11Common.cmake
@@ -300,7 +300,7 @@
 # ---------------------- pybind11_strip -----------------------------
 
 function(pybind11_strip target_name)
-  # Strip unnecessary sections of the binary on Linux/Mac OS
+  # Strip unnecessary sections of the binary on Linux/macOS
   if(CMAKE_STRIP)
     if(APPLE)
       set(x_opt -x)